Friday, April 17, 2009

Why did I come to Canada?! Part 27 of 27 Finally!

{Thank you all for your patience, I know I dragged it for so long but I am finally done. I will be taking a couple of weeks off but will be responding to all the comments. I want to thank my friend that helped me with some posts but eventually had to fire because she was too busy getting married LOL. Thanks once again and I love you all!}

At work my boss didn’t bother me at all, everything was fine except that I was still finishing at midnight and basically working 4 hours everyday for free.
One of those nights Marven came to visit me at the restaurant. I was very surprised to see him because I never told him where I worked (he asked Moe). He helped me clean and was able to finish at 9:30.

Marven was coming everyday to help me clean(I never asked him) every night we would leave together to watch movies, go to bars, etc. we were spending so much time together and was really enjoying being with him. Eventually we ended up as girlfriend and boyfriend. After 1 ½ years of going out we got married. It has been over 2 years since we married. We love each other, have a great relationship and frankly I couldn’t be happier with him.

One day while talking to him he said something that really got me thinking “I know that I was the reason you came to Canada”. I honestly believe that. I know that I went through a lot, in part because of my stupidity, lack of experience and partly because I needed to go through that so I could learn many valuable lessons, grow as a person and really value the nice things that I have now.

I remember when I got married and saw our apartment for the first time. I couldn’t believe that this was where I was going to live; finally a place to call home and to have someone to share my life with was unbelievable. Not long ago I was thinking on just surviving and trying to make ends meet. I got way more than what I asked for.

I never heard from Piercedtongue again. I decided to forgive him even thought I never received an apology. I wish him the best and I hope that he finds/found happiness.

I would like to make one thing clear. By any means I don't want people to believe that all Muslims or Arabs are bad people. I happened to have many Arabic and Muslims friends that are nothing like Piercedtongue and to categorize everyone as being bad will be pure ignorance from my part.

I could have never done it without God’s help and all the people that helped me even when I didn’t want help. For those that are going through something similar, my advice is: Don’t give up, learn from your mistakes, don’t be afraid to ask for help, don’t hold grudges and always believe that you will see the light at the end of the tunnel.


AlpHa Buttonpusher said...

So sweet. I knew there was a happily ever after :)

underOvr (aka The U) said...


Thank you for sharing your life. I'm glad I got the chance to read it.

As you say one must "believe that you will see the light at the end of the tunnel."

I'm happy that light shines for you.


Richard said...

The stories ending (beginning), and the scenery are beautiful.

vixen kitten said...

What a great story. I firmly believe that things happen in our lives for a reason, and sometimes it isn't until much later down the road that you realize the reason.

I am so glad this had a happy ending for you! Enjoy your time off from blogging. We'll be waiting for you when you get back.


.beee. said...

Oh my gosh! I'm so glad this has a happy ending, and I'm so happy you and Marven are together, hah! What a great ending. This has been a great experience, reading these posts, and reliving this with you. You have so much strength and I hope you never lose that.


Christine said...

I was 'hoping' that you were going to marry him!!!!!
I am so glag that you had the light at the end of the tunnell, and you were able to keep yourself no matter what.

Anonymous said...

So I'm this girls best friend! I'm so happy and blessed to be her friend. She's more like a sister and someone I can definetely go to and seek advice. There are things I read here that I did not know about until after reading I know how she came to be the person she is now and how much growing up she's been through. I'm proud of you for being such a strong and courageous woman. Most of all I know God kept His hand upon you and kept you. You know...we are tested and put through the fire as gold just to come out brighter. I'm so happy God sent that special someone (MARVEN) your way! I LOVE YOU!

BTW - Thanks for acknowledging me being busy getting married =) *specially on such a short notice! Please know what I was still willing to help you with this. (SKUNK-CHILLING) - was two errors! I'm human you know. LOL

Faker said...

Wow that is a very touching story. You are a very strong person and also very brave. I don't know if I would forgive Piercedtongue, but it says a lot about you as a person that after all you have been through you still you can still forgive someone who might not even feel remorse. After so much unhappiness I think you deserve to be happy.

It was my pleasure to read the reason why you went to Canada!

P.S I think you missed out a word on a paragraph..

I would like to make one thing clear. By any means I don't want people to believe that all Muslims or Arabs are bad people.

Jeah said...


well done sista!

Shania said...

Alpha B: You told me before that you knew that this story had a happy ending but as you know.. I couldn't tell you until the end lol. thanks so much for reading.

U: I am very happy to share my story. Thanks for always leaving thoughtful comments.

Richard: Thank you very much for your support since the beginning.

VK: Everything happens for reason... I am just glad that now I can appreciate all the wonderful things that life has to offer. Thanks so much for all your comments.

Bee: My sweet bee,it has been an honor sharing my story with you. Thanks for everything.

Christine: Thank you thank you. I am very glad that such a wonderful person as yourself has been reading my blog.

BFF: I am sorry that I didn't tell you my whole story before but I wasn't ready... I was a bit ashamed and thought that you probably wouldn't understand and might judge me but I'm glad I was wrong. I know you were willing to help me but to tell you the truth I didn't want to be a burden and especially when you had so much on your plate. I love you too girl.

Faker: Thanks so much.... I think that the reason that I decided to forgive PT was because I was in such a happy place with Marven that there was no point of me being mad at him... honestly I believe he did me a favor in helping me meet Marven that the right thing to do was to let PT go.
LOL I really appreciate that you corrected me. Seriously thanks.

Jeah: thank you for that complement it really means a lot coming from another sista LOL.

AlpHa Buttonpusher said...

Hey sweetie, there's an award for you when you come back:)

AlenaRosa said...

It's very cool and inspiring to see the person you became through your experiences. so glad to hear everything worked out and thank you for sharing your life with us!

Shania said...

Alpha b: thanks so much for the award it is extremely appreciated.

Alenarosa: thank you for reading my story.