tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7398308465666413331.post5894010291413461354..comments2023-05-28T05:16:09.955-04:00Comments on My Thoughts: About My Mother.... (Part 3 of 6)Shaniahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07638956268383590096noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7398308465666413331.post-43824303454907984472009-04-08T09:54:00.000-04:002009-04-08T09:54:00.000-04:00Sometimes, it's harder to forget...so much so, tha...Sometimes, it's harder to forget...so much so, that forgiveness becomes a riverbed you never set a foot in.<BR/><BR/>The one who hurts another the most, or is blind to themselves, uses words, and only words, in order to deny the hurt they've caused. Actions, always speak louder than words.<BR/><BR/>Forgiveness, real forgiveness, takes a lot of time. The time in-between (the stand-off period) is valuable. If you can see your mother w/a bit distance, one day you'll move closer in your mind to her. That's the day, you be able to forgive. <BR/><BR/>Forgetting, though, is not something to shut-away. It is a defense against further hurt.<BR/><BR/>`x~William.William H. Balzachttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10751383649935883535noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7398308465666413331.post-27459330715803321102009-03-12T00:23:00.000-04:002009-03-12T00:23:00.000-04:00Thank you so much bee. I hope you can work out you...Thank you so much bee. I hope you can work out your differences with your dad, you know life is short. I am glad that I was able to reconcile with my mom and enjoy the years that are to come.Shaniahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07638956268383590096noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7398308465666413331.post-19600090902409433152009-02-14T08:19:00.000-05:002009-02-14T08:19:00.000-05:00I completely understand where you're coming from i...I completely understand where you're coming from in this entry...with the forgiveness being hard. I've had a similar situation with my dad for well, 22 years...my whole life. I really enjoy your blog. I'll be keeping up with it as often as I can. Keep up the good work =).beee.https://www.blogger.com/profile/16165603407959373942noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7398308465666413331.post-49669551454732032152009-02-12T12:19:00.000-05:002009-02-12T12:19:00.000-05:00I believe that everything happens for a reason and...I believe that everything happens for a reason and maybe this experience will help me be a better person with my offspring and the world around me. like anonymous said "maybe that person who asked for forgiveness feels forgiven and has moved on" now is not about her its about me.Thank you all for you comments.Shaniahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07638956268383590096noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7398308465666413331.post-21864608600727791152009-02-12T10:03:00.000-05:002009-02-12T10:03:00.000-05:00Like the others said, forgiveness is hard. It's ha...Like the others said, forgiveness is hard. It's hard because you have to let go of the hurtful past and not let it affect you. I'm not saying forget the past because like you said before you don't want history to repeat itself, so remember the hard times and treat your children better in the future.Ed Ngaihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09238486410172549967noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7398308465666413331.post-52980843091750278452009-02-12T06:19:00.000-05:002009-02-12T06:19:00.000-05:00Bonjour Shania, tu te souviens très bien de ton Fr...Bonjour Shania, tu te souviens très bien de ton Français :)<BR/>I have quite the same relationships with my father... but he never apologized, whatever I said, however I cried... I understand how you felt during this phonecall... and yes, forgiveness is so difficult! For me, I were "saved" by my daughter's birth : then, I realized that, for the very first time, I could act, I could end the "pain-chain" (my grand-mother was terrible with my father : he's reenacting) and choose to be different with my kids, so they won't suffer as I used to... (But, nethertheless, I still wait for a sign, a word from my father... Hopeless wait...)Roseauhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08556859954918988703noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7398308465666413331.post-65644270286464683882009-02-11T13:53:00.000-05:002009-02-11T13:53:00.000-05:00I guess it all comes down to when you hear that fo...I guess it all comes down to when you hear that forgiving is one thing and forgetting is another. True forgiveness needs to come from deep within your heart. See maybe that person who asked for forgiveness feels forgiven and has moved on...maybe, maybe not. Truth is we have to really forgive in order for us to be forgiven. I'm looking forward to reading the remaining parts.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com